Anchored in Hope

CBC ministry created to help women grieve with hope, who have suffered miscarriage and loss.

God promises to comfort us in our sorrow (2 Corinthians 1:3-5), but we sometimes need the help and the support of others who have experienced a similar loss. Here is what this ministry offers:

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Once a month meeting: Women get together and gather around a meal to discuss their loss or miscarriage once a month. They pray for each other, empathize, encourage and point each other to Jesus. Please reach out to Marcelle Nagel if you need more information on the dates and times of these meetings as they change based on availability.


Individual meetings: There are many women here at CBC who have experienced miscarriage and loss, and there are a few available and would love to talk one-on-one. Would you please reach out to one of these women so they can hear your story, chat with you, pray for you, and encouraging you?

Bradlynn Jusino at bradlynn@communitybible.net or (810) 360-9267

Marcelle Nagel at marcellenagel@gmail.com or (517) 404-5778

MaryBeth Jackson at mbjackson111@gmail.com or (810) 422-4419


Recommended resources:

For someone who has had a miscarriage: A book is highly recommended by Anchored in Hope called "Grace Like Scarlett" by Adriel Booker. Adriel Booker shares intimate stories about her experiences with early and mid-term miscarriages to help you navigate your grief and know you aren't alone. She tackles complex questions about faith, suffering, and God's will with sensitivity and clarity, devoid of religious clichés or pat answers. She also includes practical resources to help guide children through grief, advice on pregnancy after loss, and special sections for dads and loved ones.


For someone who has a loved one who has had a miscarriage: Often, friends and family members don’t know how to comfort someone who has gone through a loss. Especially if they have never experienced one themselves, here are a few tips, compiled by women who have experienced miscarriage, to help you navigate this tough topic. 

1. Allow space for grieving but be present and willing.

2. Invite your loved ones to speak about their pain and then listen. It can be very helpful to talk about their loss, so ask them questions like “How are you feeling?”, “How are you?” and then listen to them.

3. Ask them if you can help. Asking if there is anything you can do to help goes a long way. Making them a meal, helping make a memorial, or packing away baby supplies are all things they MAY want help with. Be patient and listen to their needs.

4. Make sure you continue to check-in. Losing a baby can be a very lonely and isolating place. Your loved one wants to feel continued love and acceptance by you, as well as the knowledge that you have not forgotten their loss, especially during holidays, birthdays, and special events.

5. Avoid hurtful questions and comments.  Do not ask when they will have another child or remind them that they can get pregnant again. Everyone’s situation is different and private. Similarly, avoid using “at least” statements (as in, “At least you have another child.”) There’s just no amount of positivity that’s going to negate a loss.

6. There are appropriate and non-appropriate gifts to give. Appropriate gifts are ones that the mother can use for herself—mainly things of comfort (slippers, chocolate, bath salts). Things like flowers can be sweet but also could remind your loved one of their loss. Non-appropriate gifts would be baby items and memorabilia. Later, these might be a nice gesture, but they do not work as an immediate gift after a loss.


We hope this information was helpful to you. Please share this with anyone you know (in the church or outside) who has experienced loss and needs support. We also have a small gift available from the Anchored in Hope ministry to get to those who have had a miscarriage. If you know anyone who would appreciate that or have any further questions, please reach out to Marcelle Nagel at (517) 404-5778 or marcellenagel@gmail.com.